These days seems all of my college friends are just "waiting for the ring."
I thought the MRS. degree died with 80s. Apparently, I was wrong.
This post is to express my opinion that getting married right after school is the DUMBEST. IDEA. EVER.
1. I'm selfish. And quite honest about it. After nearly a year in the real world, I can honestly say nothing is better than really being out on your own. For the first time in my life, I can really do what I want, when I want and only rely on myself. This short period of life is sweet so embrace it while you can.
2. Statistics. Half of all marriages end in divorce. Because of this, I want to be absolutely sure this is the real deal. You say you are sure he's the one? Well then why the rush? I mean, if he is and you're doing it right, you'll be with him the rest of your life. Why not enjoy a few years of being selfish....
3. It's work. A great relationship is work, A lot of work. Suddenly, it's all about compromise and pressures related to your future, like everyone asking when you're going to have kids (don't even get me started on that topic!!)!!!!! Getting married should never be the thing to do.
4. Heartbreak. I believe no one should be allowed to get married until they have their heart ripped out of their chest, thrown into a blender and made into the sangria they drink to drown their sorrows. I genuinely feel lucky to have dated by whackjob exes because I know have higher standards than ever before. I can't imagine having never gone through heartbreak before marriage. In this instance, you can, to some extent, never realize how lucky you are to have found someone worthy of marriage.
5. Exploring my Options. I'd be lying if I said I haven't had a lot of fun exploring my options throughout the years. Sure, it can get a little cyclical at times, but why pick your ice cream flavor before sampling all the tasty looking options? I know I get tired of the same flavor after a while and I'd like to avoid having this happen in my personal life.
Postgrad life is vastly different from college. Get your life together first and the right guy will come along at the right time. Promise.